Are you Always Looking for More?
Recently, someone recommended a book to me called The Soul of Money. I read it, liked it and found myself listening to its sequel via audiobook. (I say sequel, but I’m not entirely sure if that’s accurate – in any case, it’s another small book written by the same author on the same topic.)
The author has a number of points that made me think. But one of the biggest things I responded to was the idea that most of us, day in and day out, are fighting a battle against more. Our fallback M.O. is to want more of anything we have, or anything we do.
I know this well.
Growing up, my mother always had a phrase, “Anything worth doing is worth overdoing.” To this day, it’s still in her email signature. Now, while this may be a funny phrase, I don’t feel it’s a very helpful phrase. (Alert, Mom!) In reality, more ain’t usually that good.
More food. More clients. More stuff. More money. There’s all kinds of more. And many of us want all of it.
Don’t get me wrong – sometimes it might be good. But most of the time, those of us who are lucky to have the resources we need (a full belly, a roof over our heads), don’t actually need more. We want more, sure. But do we need it? No.
And yet we spend immense resources trying to claw after it, day in and day out.
There’s a movement instructor I know who says that in all our physical movements we should be asking ourselves “How can I do less?” So, for example, when you get up from bed in the morning, try to think about how your body could best lift you up so that you are doing as little as possible. When you’re sitting in a chair, same deal. Think of how your body can do less. Because, as she says, our bodies want to do the easiest thing, and that easiest thing (standing up straight, balancing your weight on two feet, etc.), is what is best for our bodies in the end.
Now, if we take this concept beyond the physical, it can help us. Instead of looking for more, look for less. Want to go shopping, or stay at home? Want to eat more, or put down the fork? Think about when you can choose less, and go after it, full force.
So, to you.
When Can You Choose Less?